This showed up on CNN's website...
When to reveal your secret to a date
...Besides, waiting to reveal a potential deal breaker such as herpes or $300,000 in credit-card debt is just good dating decorum, says syndicated sex columnist Dan Savage, author of "The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family."
"You don't want someone to reveal too much at first because that itself is a deal breaker," he says. "If somebody sits down on the first date and says, 'I'm into spanking,' even if you are into spanking, [too], you might react negatively to that."
I laughed a bit - internally, of course!! Please, I 'm at work ;)
When do you bring it up ?
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If you decide to skip my musings then have a good day (actually I wanted to say fuck you but am being mature at the moment - I'm usually not this hostile but it IS before coffee).
Later,
dg
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The *s* stories are just that...*s* stories totally unrelated to each other (okay, okay...mostly unrelated).
The Sam/Tina stories involve F/F (female/female for those not up on the nomenclature) in a domestic discipline relationship.
Yes, the *s* word comes into play (I was surprised too).
I'll try to list them in chronological order with the first story listed on top. If I forget....yeah, well - I'm not perfect. I'll include which "chapter" it is at the beginning of each story so you can figure it out.
Sooo, if that is not your thing or offensive then it is definitely time to go...if not, then enjoy. If you aren't sure then you might consider taking a chance and checking 'em out...what have you got to lose ?
The Sam/Tina stories involve F/F (female/female for those not up on the nomenclature) in a domestic discipline relationship.
Yes, the *s* word comes into play (I was surprised too).
I'll try to list them in chronological order with the first story listed on top. If I forget....yeah, well - I'm not perfect. I'll include which "chapter" it is at the beginning of each story so you can figure it out.
Sooo, if that is not your thing or offensive then it is definitely time to go...if not, then enjoy. If you aren't sure then you might consider taking a chance and checking 'em out...what have you got to lose ?
Vanilla stories
Here's some other little fictional works which are completely vanilla (see, I am multi-faceted).
For those of you that consider vanilla a flavoring agent in baking and some coffees or the runner-up to chocolate, you would be wrong (not about the runner-up thing silly).
Vanilla means "complete absence of *s*" for the purposes of my blog (and it is all about me;)
For those of you that consider vanilla a flavoring agent in baking and some coffees or the runner-up to chocolate, you would be wrong (not about the runner-up thing silly).
Vanilla means "complete absence of *s*" for the purposes of my blog (and it is all about me;)
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9 comments:
hehe
I think things told when naked and in the act things that might be deal breakers are taken much more lightly!
So about 1/2 way thru a blow job 300K in CC debt ain't so bad!
I think, that even if I want to try it sometimes, I would be kind of scare if someone said they were into spanking on the first date. Maybe when you are talking about having sex for the first time would be a good idea to talk about it!
I can't figure out how people who have 'alternative' interests manage to bring up the subject with a new person. Or the guy who wants a three-some. How does he first broach the subject with his wife or girl-friend. You can't really go back if it's not received well.
SS - ROFLMAO...yeah, it is amazing what ceases to be a big deal during those nekkid moments. lol
Maeve - thanks for stopping by. Yeah, it is a tricky subject - see above comment. lol
Hell, I keep things pretty generic on the first date...don't want to reveal any personal stuff in case I am with a closeted psycho/stalker!!
trooper thorn - I hadn't really thought about the whole "broaching the 3-some with wife/gf" issue. You're right - real hard to retreat from that little nugget of info !!
Personally, I'm leaning towards Southern Sage's approach (what a nice dilemma to have ;D!!
Thanks for dropping by, btw.
dg
~~Leaving the hairbrush on a night-table, (assuming, of course, the first date entails a fetching trip to the bedroom. You know how much coffee & good conversation can lead to broaching the ramparts of a threshold...Onward, the bedsheets!..:)...Where was I??
Oh, yes! The hairbrush. Sometimes, a well placed object~~such a simple ting, really, can spur the most interesting developments.
[Put, some spanking related items in a closet. The curious kind, will stumble upon it eventually..
...and, this will tell you who you're dealing with also (damn! Stalkers!)..Just remember, to place the items in such a way you'll know they've been moved, or picked, or tampered with!]
Of course, these are just two suggestions. You may not want to try these at home. lol!
~x~Will
Guess it all depends where you MET the person... if, say, for example, you met in a spanking forum, then it's no big surprise, now is it? LOL
Seriously tho, sometimes there IS no easy way to approach some things -- even after you've been with someone for years.
But, you know this already. Don't ya?
;)
psst... poppin' by to tell you that you have an award waiting for ya at my castle! ;)
Thanks lb...been of the grid for a bit so now I'm heading your way.
"Sure could use a nice fanny massage....my lower back, ya know..lumbar, w/lotion would be nice..."
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That would be so inviting to hear.
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~x~SinfullyAnon.
Ps: Just a suggestion. :)
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